Change
– it is hard. Even something as minuscule as moving a couple of houses
down from our current location or having to change a hotel while we
travel, there is something intrinsically upsetting that disturbs our
sense of calm when we are placed out of our element. Yet, without those
times and challenges, we are never taxed – we are never pushed to
examine and then adapt to the true and
constantly changing world. Let me tell you about my recent reminder
that change, even unexpected, is not all bad.
Bronwyn, Amy,
Kayla, Sean, and I were sitting in the Kwajalein airport waiting for the
west bound flight to the recent Saipan invitational swim meet. Around
us were the usual smattering of Marshallese travelers in their brightly
coloured, matching dresses and shirts; lime green with huge white, red,
and brown flowers. The sparkling tan and bronze beaded rickrack running
across the necklines and sleeves reflected the glints of sunlight that
would occasionally flash through the slowly rotating black clouds of TS
Bavi w-073, the baby typhoon that had formed around us and was passing.
The IMCOM Pacific Region General, his retinue, as well as the SMDC
Brigadier General and his crew were in the VIP room. 2 of the ever
faithful Kwaj fire and rescue team were packed and ready for a long
anticipated and planned vacation to Australia. Children scampered and
played hide and seek between and behind chairs. One of our friends
looked at her ticket and said, “my ticket says “Gate subject to
change.’” …….There it was, one of those laughter filled life moments
that just makes us see things from a different perspective.
Kwaj airport has one gate. There may be two doors facing the runway,
but the tiny waiting room and with its sole attendant stand next to the
Plexiglas case of WWII artifacts and echoing high, military-stark walls
and ceiling DEFINITELY has one identified gate. Sure, there are several
egresses, but only one unnumbered gate. We joked about what could serve
as another gate, laughed about the unnecessary printed warning, and
eventually went back to our own wait; but that simple phrase was with me
for the entire trip, showing up again and again in practice more than
writing. “Gate subject to change.”
That was 15 days ago, and I
am still not home. My “gates” throughout this trip have definitely
been changing - every single day. TS Bavi w-073 hit Saipan the evening
after the swim meet. As I drove to the airport to find out if one of
our team coaches would be able to arrive from Guam, I wondered if his
ticket had warned him about a potential gate change in his plans for
that day. He never arrived, and had a permanent change to return to
Kwaj. As I negotiated with the hotel to allow me and Bronwyn to stay in
our room until we could arrange seats to Guam, I chuckled about our
gate change for that day. I am sure the hotel staff thought I had lost
my mind, standing there with 2 bottles of champagne for me and Amy,
grinning as I convinced them we would be delayed. As I stood in the dark
and deserted Saipan Airport while the emergency flight that the airline
flew to get travelers to Guam left without us, I wondered about how
many gates and gate changes we would experience before we left Saipan or
made it further. As Amy and I took Sean and Brownyn to see if the ATV
trek we had reserved would still go in the 35-40 mph winds, I smiled
about the “gate safety” sign we passed next to the light post that was
blown onto our car during our ATV ride. YES, you read that right! The
ATV ride that Amy and I took with the kids and several Japanese
tourists, in 40 MPH winds, while TS Bavi moved across the island.
I have discovered over years of family practice, is that most people
actually work very hard to force this dynamic world to be the same,
mundane, and unobtrusive – SERIOUSLY? In the crazily overwhelming vortex
that is the world outside Rat Race? Over and over, I have worked with
people who are struggling to assimilate things that confront their sense
of stability. Whether the challenge is physical change, like pregnancy
or death; emotional change; spiritual change – it never matters. Change
is HARD; and we rarely get the advanced notice that in life, our gates
are subject to change…….
Since Ian was born, one of my prayers
for my children has been “Father, keep Ian, Bronwyn, Keira, Will, me
and our family and Godfamily well, happy healthy and safe in body, mind
and spirit.” I find myself praying this in the shower as I stand,
present to the water and the sound of the family laughter outside the
door; or ride my bike to the hospital, mesmerized by the utter and
spellbinding beauty of sunrise. What I find, though, is that I need to
actively be reminded that life is constantly changing – challenging us
to be better than we are – Demanding us to reach deep in our souls for
resilience – Pulling us to discomfort that expands our awareness of our
monumentally incredible world.
In the Rat Race, the wheel and
cage never change. Outside that limiting, constricting box is the
unknown in every step of leaving life-sucking repetitiveness behind.
What’s stopping you from glancing outside your cage today? Sure, there
may be a typhoon-like cacophony of chaos and unknown; but here’s your
warning/opportunity today: Based on life’s capricious and magical whim,
Your gate is subject to change. Now, what are YOU going to do when that
happens?
Galbraiths Go Global
Thursday, November 5, 2015
Friday, September 4, 2015
The big things in Life are actually LITTLE things we pay attention to.........
It's 0430 in the Morning on this side of the Pacific Ocean. Yesterday was the 1st day of school on our little island. Ian was showering; and I wanted to get the trash to the curb, the dishes done,and to the office really early. Three trips with the trash passed before I realized there was a gift on our patio. Lying on top of a cooler and beside our boogie boards and turkey fryer was a stack of 3 pillows and a warm wooby blanket. I just stopped and started laughing and crying at the same time.
As much as I want to go early to work on a project, I believe that this morning's time is best spent reflecting on the gifts of people in our lives. Yes, blankets and pillows this morning brought me an insight into how the Rat Race of work and schedules can need to be deprioritized for a moment.
In time zone 1, where we live, today is our cherished Godmother, Monique Mill's birthday (in the US her birthday is tomorrow). Yesterday in the US, was another friend, Sam Raborn's birthday. It is one of the quirks of world time zones that for us, today, they will essentially share a birthday. As I walked into our house carrying the blankets and pillows, it dawned on me that TODAY, I get to celebrate the lives of two people at the same time. Why don't I do that more often? It was at that moment that I knew I was not going to work early.
Huge transitions in life stop most of us short and force reflection. Deaths, Moves, Weddings, Illnesses, Births, Tragedies are just examples of how moments that demand a commitment of time and attention become markers throughout life's journey. Every person I have ever known uses some transition to date and time stamp memories. I want to find a way to make these more reflective moments as important as huge transitions. These snugly blessings from a wonderful person who is PCS'ing today ( Permanent Change of Station) will forever be linked in my memory with Monique and Sam's birthday, Deb's PCS, Ian's laughter as he burrowed under the blanket, the 10th anniversary of Hurricane Katrina, the 4th anniversary of our move to Belize. and the warmth and smell of Love. I hope that taking the time to write these thoughts and sit next to Ian will indelibly mark this feeling in my memory.
Thank you, Deb Douthat, for the perpetually selfless generosity that makes you so precious to me. Thank you, San Raborn, for being a person that makes me smile whenever I think about you. Thank you, Monique, for 27 years of being our family and all that means. Thank you Ian, for 4 weeks of backpacking Europe and still asking me to sit next to you under a warm blanket. Finally, thank you Father God for the insight you sent me and the beauty of our world and our lives.
I pray that transitions in life will not overshadow the little moments that may actually be more important. I resolve to continue to recognize and celebrate the joy of those moments with the people that I love.
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